Have you ever had friends come up to you questioning if their partner is really “into” them? My friends have told me stories lamenting that their partner doesn’t spring them any romantic surprises, isn’t creative when planning dates, or simply takes forever to respond to their messages. Do all these meana that your partner doesn’t like you enough? Not necessarily.
During times like these, it is important to remember that we are all different, and so is the way we display our affection. Just because our partner doesn’t give us love in the way we expect or desire does not mean they do not love us. In fact, we may receive love from them in numerous ways we don’t realise because we’re too busy harping on what we want instead of giving thanks for what we have.
As we have mentioned before, there are five different love languages, which will explain the various ways we express our love for one another. If you’re doubting your partner’s interest in you, it could be because your love languages are vastly different. This difference will affect your compatibility to some degree, but it does not have to hinder your relationship from moving forward.
What can be done to solve this is open and honest communication. Inform your partner of your own personal needs and desires and what they can do differently to make you feel the love you know they have for you. At the same time, allow them to express their own feelings and opinions on how much they can do for you, and what you can do to make them feel wanted as well. It is important that you both come to an understanding and compromise as much as you are comfortable with.
At the same time, we cannot expect them to change so completely to be the exact person we want them to be. We should accept our partner as they are and be thankful for the little things they do for us. Their way of presenting their affection for us may not be ideal to us now, but it is sincere and heartfelt. If we can fully appreciate our partner and their positive actions and words towards us – no matter how big or small – we may discover that they love us more than we were ever aware of. Our partner loves us in their own special way, and in our own special way, we love them too.