I always wondered to myself that if a guy should spend more efforts on how to carry himself during a date, many ladies would not be disappointed and go into despair and start to go around proclaiming loudly that there are no good guys around.
Hence, for the first entry to kickstart our blog , I decide to share an article on how a guy should go around in creating a good impression on his date, hopefully my girlfriends would rest their case =p
I always feel that the odds would be higher that the lady would say ‘YES’ to a second date especially when she has enjoyed herself during that date. This can be achieved if the guy acts in a more gentlemanly manner during the first date. Even though we always talk about equity amongst both genders, it should not deter a guy from showering his gentlemanly manner to us. I feel that no matter what, a lady should feel special and being ‘sought after’ during the date.
Hence, guys out there please persevere and continue to captivate & impress your date! Put on your best behavior and be sensitive and attentive to your date. Then you would be on the way to winning half the battle of conquering your ‘princess’!
Here goes the 9 simple but powerful ways to create a lasting impression on your date:
Number 1 – Be punctual
First impression does count thus it is important to be on time especially on the first date. It shows a guy’s sincerity and attitude towards his date. When a guy makes effort to be punctual or even earlier on the first date, the lady would be impressed with him and feel that he respects her. Hence, do make sure you leave your house approximately 30 minutes early especially if you are not familiar with the route to the venue of the meeting place.
Number 2 – Hold the door
Do be a gentleman and hold every door of a restaurant, shopping centre or any other buildings for the lady. If the door opens towards you, pull it and allow the lady to go in first before stepping in. However, if it is a heavy door that opens inwards, it is acceptable to walk in first, hold the door and wait for the lady to go inside. Please remember to do it subtly and thoughtfully as the lady would not like to have too much fuss and attention of others’ on her. By doing this attentive act, you would definitely let a lady feel special and appreciated.
Number 3 –Pull the chair for the lady
This is another important act though I do not see it happen very often these days. By pulling the chair for your date before you sit down, the lady would feel that you care about her interests before your own. Helping her to settle down first priorities your own comfort and would help to impress her further.
Number 4 – Watch your language
Please remember you are on a date with a fair lady and do not use the same mannerism like when you are hanging out with your group of buddies. Always remember to be courteous on the first date and use “Please” or “Thank you” when appropriate. In addition, there should not be any sexually suggestive or offensive languages during the conversation with your date. Make her comfortable by talking on safe topics such as her family, hobbies & interests, work, and countries that she travelled before. Do not probe on sensitive topics such as her income, past relationship and personal problems.
Way 5 – Maintain eye contact throughout the date
During the date, always maintain eye contact with your lady to show that you are keen on her companion and do not interrupt her when she is speaking. However, please do not make her uncomfortable by staring at her intensely. Every minute or so, you can shift your eyes to other areas briefly before resuming eye contact with her. It is a basic courtesy to put your handphone on silence mode so as not to disrupt the conversation. Even though you may not like the date, please show your gentleman manner and give her the due respect.
Way 6 – Walk on the outer lane of the road
By offering to walk on the outer lane of the road, this would display your chivalry manner and allow a lady to place her trust in you in protecting her. Another gentleman act greatly appreciated by lady is to guide her while crossing the road.
Way 7 -Introduce her when you meet someone outside
When you are on a date with a lady, do not neglect her presence and introduce her whenever you meet someone you know. Make a brief conversation with the person you meet and shortly return to your date after that. A lady would definitely don’t feel good if she is ignored or neglected especially on the first date. Thus, it is the guy’s responsibility to let the lady feel comfortable and at ease during the date.
Way 8- Smile and stay confident
A confident and assertive guy would always be well-liked by ladies. Hence it is important to display such confidence and decisiveness in front of your date. One great tip is to pre-plan and “visually rehearsed” the date beforehand. You can plan and reserve seats in advance, and run through the whole date in your mind to see if you have left out anything. This preparation would allow the date to run smoothly and your date would be impressed with the impeccable planning.
Though during the date you may feel nervous, do console yourself that your date is feeling the same way as you do. Always smile and have a positive attitude.
Way 9 – Offer to send your date back
It is a good gesture to ensure your date safely when she is with you. After a date, you should offer to see the lady back. When you showered such concern over her safely, the lady would feel appreciated and protected by you. However, if a girl is not comfortable allowing you to send her home, do offer to call a cab for her and call her/text her sometime later to check if she is safely back home.
Yup all the guys out there, once you master the 9 simple ways well, you would be on the cupid’s board soon.
Good Luck! Cheerios, Jen