Are You Apa..rt ??

Recently, there are increasing reports of extra-marital affairs that hit the headlines. It is happening to teachers, celebrities, political public figures etc.. in other words, it can happen to anyone!

Can one prevent this from happening to you? Fortunately, the answer is Yes! In fact, one of the top reasons why one commits extra-marital affairs is because the relationship with their partner is dis-integrating and hence they turn to a third party for solace.

    “Are you able to tell if you have a healthy relationship or are both of you drifting apart?”

Let us share some of the common signs to watch out for:

1) Communication Is Going Downhill
It is understandable that as a couple spend more and more time together, it is almost impossible to keep the flow of conversation on-going. However, it becomes a dangerous signal when the topics that you guys talk revolve around the daily, mundane habitual stuffs instead of fulfilling and meaningful conversations.

When you find that your partner is not listening to you or stop communicating and turns to another person for advices or support, the RED light is on!

2) Lack Of Involvement In Each Other’s Life
In the beginning of a relationship, a couple would normally spend a lot of time doing things together and involve each other in their daily activities. However, as a relationship grows, one may slowly change as they develop new interests, meet new friends and seek new perspective or priorities in life etc. hence it is inevitable that both of you might ‘grow out’ of each other!

Therefore, if you find that your partner becomes more self-absorbed in their life and seems happier doing things without you, do pay heed to this warning sign and get into action!

3) Too Obliging
Another obvious sign that both of you are drifting apart is when you find that your partner readily accepts anything that you said or do. For eg a last minute cancellation of a meet up is fine or when there is a difference in opinions, your partner would just oblige and no longer “argue” with you etc

    “When your partner behaves in a way that is too good to be true, don’t be too happy as you are actually standing on the tip of the iceberg!”

4) Diminishing Acts of Affection
If you find that the usual little gestures of affection for eg holding hands, making calls or even concerns for your whereabouts is no longer displayed, you might need to watch out! Normally, when a couple drifted apart, they might stop showering concerns and affection towards one another.

Guys, do take some time to assess the condition of your relationship. Even if you experience some of the above-mentioned signs, do not panic as it can be a ‘temporary’ phase (for eg your partner is having a bad patch in life or rushing to meet a deadline of a project etc), so don’t come to a conclusion too fast! 😉

    Good Luck! ~ Love, Jen

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Ed and Jen, the authors of, is a lovely couple managing their own Professional Dating Consultancy and sharing their thoughts on finding the *Sparkles* in Dating, Relationships & Lifestyles as well as Quick Tips on getting your ♥~Perfect Match~♥ on their Blog. Please feel free to connect with us at Google+
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