- “Would You like to meet My Parents?”
I remembered clearly when Jen asked me this question for the first time, I felt ‘honoured’ and happy that she did as I know that it is a sign that she is serious and wishes to PROGRESS in our relationship. On the other hand, I do feel a little apprehensive and worried whether her parents would approve of me and give us their blessings. Despite all these thoughts running through my mind, I still managed to reply in my manly voice, “Of course Baby, I would be delighted to meet your parents!”.
Well, for all those readers out there, you must have guessed that I passed the ‘Meet the Parents Test’ with flying colours right? The anxiety that I was feeling then was completely unfounded. But with that being said, it was because I did some ‘QUALITY’ preparations beforehand, surely you don’t expect to have 不劳而获 right?!!. In order to save you some of the time and provide a little ‘shortcut’ for our dear readers , let me share these tips with all of you.
1) Groom Yourself & Dress Appropriately
It is extremely important to make a good impression on the 1st meeting with the parents! Even though you may have ‘conquered’ the prince or princess, you must also make the effort to impress their parents. Groom yourself and make yourself presentable.
For Guys, it is advisable to give yourself a shave and haircut. Dress appropriately to show that the meeting is of Great Importance to you. Though shorts and tattered t-shirts may sound relaxing, but save that after you have ‘WON’ them over!
For Ladies, just a simple dress or top with a nice pair of jeans. Put on some light make-up and avoid clothes which are too revealing or over-elaborate. Parents usually prefer the ‘Girl-Next-Door’ look rather than the ‘Next Top Model’ look. Of course, how you dress would also be dependant on the meeting venue and type of activity chosen.
2) Maintain Politeness and Friendliness
Acknowledge and greet them when you meet them for the first time. Always smile and be friendly at all times. Maintain eye contact during conversations and show genuine interest in knowing them better, let it come right from your heart!.
Having good table manners are also important. Do not start the meal without asking them to eat i.e. a simple “伯父伯母吃, Bon Appetit or Enjoy” would be sufficient. Offer to serve them food and refill drinks whenever necessary. All these gestures, though little, would let you ‘Score Points’ on their dashboard.
3) Get to Know the Parents Crash Course
It is best that you do your Homework before the meeting the parents. Have your partner ‘prep’ you on the family culture and give you insights on his/her parents’ personalities & interests so that you would be able to know what are the ‘SAFE’ topics to talk with them.
One of the All-Time favourite moves is to check beforehand on what the parents like and bring it as a gift to them, remember “Its One gift for Each of them!”. It will be a great topic to start with and will certainly break the ice between the both of you!
Last but not least, you just need to relax and be yourself (i.e. Be your ‘GOOD’ self) during the first meeting. Be sincere as well as respectful and you would win them over in no time. Keep your fingers crossed my friends!