Ever heard of the famous adage, “You cannot have the best of both worlds”? Well, unfortunately, it’s true. With time as a scarce resource and the inability to divide ourselves for the competing life goals, it is of little wonder that most individuals find themselves torn between a successful career and lasting love relationship. If you find yourself in the above situation, this article is written specially for you.
Over the last decade, there has been a burgeoning number of singles, especially in the younger age groups of late twenties to thirties. In Singapore, 70% of those in the age group of 25-29 are single, the largest percentage across the different age groups (The Straits Times, 2016).
Many have attributed their singlehood to their pursuit of higher academic excellence (Masters, PhD), career advancement or an ‘involuntary devotion’ to work.
In their mid-twenties to thirties, most adults are in their prime, which makes it the best time to channel their focus into climbing the corporate ladder. It is not hard to see why. When you are young, you have more time, energy and less baggage. You can devote more resources to career building. But, the conflict comes in when this age frame is also the ideal period to get hitched and start a family.
When faced with one of life’s greatest decision as such, what would you choose?
Here, at Dating Moments, we say, choose both. Yes, we started off this article saying that you cannot have the best of both worlds, but we didn’t say you cannot have both worlds. Get the difference?
While you are at the long and winding climb up towards career success, wouldn’t it be nice to have someone alongside you to cheer you on when the going gets tough, to take a break with you when you have been working too hard, to celebrate every time you move up the rungs of the ladder, to stick with you through each struggle along the way. Most importantly, to remind you that no matter how challenging life may be, they will always be there to share your happiness and sorrow, to love you for who you are.
Definitely, relationships can take a backseat as it may be wiser for you to champion career building in your earlier years and chase down your dreams and ambitions. After all, you only live once (YOLO).
However, the balance between work and love must shift as you progress upwards, before it gets too skewed – or too late. Moreover, career advancement is a never-ending road, even when your reach the top of the ladder, you know it simply does not stop there.
Pursuing both career and love at the same time is definitely not impossible, but it does take a great deal of effort to prioritise different goals at different times to weave in the two together. It is akin to the art of juggling – when you can only have one object on each hand, it is important to know when to let go and the right time to grasp, continually.
Hence, to the swinging bachelors and eligible ladies out there who have (un)knowingly devoted themselves entirely to career, while you reach out for your aspirations, we hope you know you can also choose to let love in your life and make that journey even more meaningful.